10 Things I Wish Someone Would Have Told Me During My First Heartbreak


1. You are not too young to be heartbroken.

There is not a magical age that suddenly allows you to feel something so deep. We were made to love, so love with your whole heart. Your heart will break, and it will break again. Don’t run from it. Embrace it, allow it to strengthen you. Love as long as you can, you can’t avoid heartbreak.

2. It is okay to cry.

Cry. Cry until you can’t remember why you started. Let the anger and hurt flow through your tears. It won’t happen overnight, but one day you’ll wake up and without explanation you just won’t feel so strongly anymore.

3. He didn’t want you, but that’s okay.

Baby girl, I’m begging you, please don’t hold on to false statements. The easiest way out is, “I don’t know what I want right now”. You deserve so much more than that. He knows what he wants, it just isn’t you. He’s doing you a favor, he doesn’t deserve what you are offering him. This will teach you to want yourself.

4. It’s not worth it, sweetheart.

You still have so much life left to live, pick yourself back up when you’re ready. Whatever you do, do not run back to him. You are worth more than an excuse. Find something to love with the love you had for him, do something worthy of your love.

5. You can do better, and you will.

You won’t want to hear this right now, and that’s okay but there is so much better out there. You have so much love to give and one day you’ll have someone who can handle it. Do not ever minimize yourself because you are, “too much” for someone else.

6. You couldn’t have done anything better.

Stop over analyzing everything, you won’t find a spot where it went wrong. You did everything right, and it is not your responsibility to compensate for what he lacks. The you that you are is greater than any other combination.

7. It wasn’t your fault.

Don’t beat yourself up anymore than you already have. It is not, and never will be your fault. You cannot save someone who doesn’t want to be saved, you’ll only hurt yourself in the end.

8. Don’t try to fix this.

If this was worth being fixed it wouldn’t have been broken. Fix yourself instead. Put your toolbox away and mend your own heart for once. Pay some special attention to the one who matters most, you.

9. Take your time.

Please do not jump into your next relationship, take your time hurting. That is the only way you will properly heal. Do what needs done for yourself, do not worry about anyone else. You matter in this moment, take a break from saving the world.

10. Don’t reply to that text.

He’s already consumed so much of your time, and you won’t get it back. In fact, block him. Don’t feed into it more than you already have. Focus on who you want to become.

First heartbreaks can be huge setbacks. The hurt is so real you won’t know what to do with yourself. Take time to be by yourself and remember all of the things you used to love about yourself. Let it come back to you, but do not let him come back to you. Save yourself and stop worrying about saving him. Become your hero instead of everybody elses. Be brave, be strong and never change your heart.