4 Wisdom Nuggets For Virgins

Ah, the mystical and magical V word. That’s right people; I’m talking about virgins. I’m sure at some point or another we’ve all had “the birds and the bees” conversation (who could forget how awkward those were?) But I’m here to tell you a few things your parents probably didn’t tell you.

1. There’s nothing wrong with having sex! I don’t know any other way to say it. SEX IS OKAY! It’s a natural part of our oh-so-complicated human make up. It’s wonderful and fun and exciting and perfectly acceptable! There isn’t much to expand on here. It’s as simple as that. If and when you decide to have sex, enjoy yourself! It’s a whole lotta fun.

2. You don’t have to answer to anyone about your sex life. I’m sure we’re all aware of that awful stigma that losing your virginity before or after a certain age is wrong. Too early and you end up with some sort of “slut” complex (I hate that word.) Too late and you’re now considered a prude, or worse, pathetic. But I’ll fill you in on a little secret: there is no timestamp to swiping that lovely V-Card of yours. Your body belongs to you and you alone. You have nobody to answer to about the timeline of your sexuality.

3. That being said, remember to be responsible! Sexual responsibility doesn’t just come in a little tinfoil condom wrapper. It goes a lot deeper than that. When and with whom you decide to get down and dirty with is your business, and there’s no right or wrong answer when you make the decision to start. But there IS something you have to remember…and that’s to be emotionally responsible. There’s no rule that says you have to be dating the person you decide to lose your virginity with, and it’s A-OK if you choose to sleep with someone you’re not committed to. But be in touch with your feelings if that’s your decision. Understand that whether you feel good or bad about your first time, you ARE going to feel something. Make sure you won’t have any regrets about who it’s with.

4. Sex can be awkward. I know, I know. In the movies, there’s always romantic music playing, the perfect lighting, and everything goes smoothly. But that’s not always the case. Your first time is probably going to be pretty awkward. You’re not going to know what you’re doing. If you’re a chick, it’s likely to hurt, not to mention that there’s probably going to be blood. There are awkward noises, a lot of repositioning, and basically you’re just trying to figure out what the hell is going on. It’s a beautiful experience, but be sure you understand that it’s not always what the silver screen makes it out to be.

In the end, your sexual debut is going to be individual to you. The most important thing you can remember is to stay true to yourself and what works for you. Your body is a temple (excuse the corny expression, but it’s true!!). Just make sure you do right by it, and the rest will fall into place.