5 Ways To Tell That Your Significant Other Isn’t As Emotionally Invested As You


Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships where we constantly wonder if the other person cares as much as we do, and it can be seriously frustrating. Here are some solid indicators that your significant other isn’t as emotionally invested as you are:

1. They are never the first to apologize/reach out during an argument.

When you get into an argument with your special someone, the main concern for both parties involved should be reaching a compromise or resolution. If you’re with somebody who will allow days, or even weeks, to go by without any type of contact or attempt to reconcile, that’s a huge red flag. Either they are pissed off to the point where they genuinely need time to reconsider the relationship, or they simply don’t care enough to try and fix things. That speaks volumes.

2. They make you feel like an inconvenience.

If the person you are with is truly invested in the relationship, then he or she will make certain that you always feel valued. When you try making plans with your significant other and they get annoyed because they don’t feel like picking you up, that says more than you might think. If someone wants to spend time with you they will go out of their way if they have to. For those of you in long distance relationships, if you’re constantly badgering your partner to Skype or Facetime to no avail, it’s the same concept. Those who truly care will make time for you. Either that or you’re being catfished.

3. They consider you an option and not a priority.

I don’t care if it’s your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife; if you are in a stable relationship you are the priority. When you ask your significant other to hang out and they hesitate to answer, that usually means they are waiting to see if something better comes along before committing their time to you, and that’s not okay. Like maybe I’ll go to the movies with you on Friday, but first I want to see if my friends are busy. In a relationship where you care equally for one another, it should be the other way around.

4. They are late for everything.

Sometimes shit happens and people are late — accidents, traffic, and lost car keys, are just a few of the plethora of great, legitimate excuses. But if this is happening on a regular basis, especially for special events that he/she knows are important to you, then you may need to reevaluate. Being late is essentially telling someone that you have no respect for their time. Think about that.

5. They refuse to make time for you.

If your guy/gal can’t take time out of their schedule, busy or not, to see you or talk to you, that’s a pretty solid indicator that they might not be so invested. Your time is arguably your most valuable asset (since you’ll never get it back,) and if you are willing to give it where you won’t get it in return that’s simply unfair. There is always enough time for someone you truly care for.