9 Things You Can Do Now That You’re Single


1. Travel alone.

Everything feels shattered, especially your self-esteem, after a bad breakup. Self-love is about renewing yourself and prioritizing your own wants and needs for a change. Traveling alone is the perfect time to think things through and discover something in yourself that you have never known when you are in a relationship.

2. Learn a new hobby.

Remember that dance class you’re dying to take? Or how about that short course on baking you saw on Groupon a couple of weeks ago? Whatever it may be, as long as it enriches your soul and it makes you happy, do it. It’s about time you do something for yourself and for what you really want in your life.

3. Make volunteering a habit.

I have learned that if you want love, you should give love. You cannot move on and start a new chapter in your life if you hold on to grudges and bad experiences. Learn to forgive not just the person who hurts you, but also yourself for hurting. When you fully understand how to forgive and forget, you will realize how grateful you are in other aspects of your life.

4. Reconnect with an old friend or family member.

Sometimes when we are in a relationship, we forget those other important people in our life. Our family and friends play a huge role with who we are today and it is important that we show them the same amount of love and attention we give our special someone. It’s about living in the present and enjoying the other aspects of our life that is equally important.

5. Start a journal.

It doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be a writer and find a publisher for your future book, but it’s on how you express yourself through writing in order to gain inner peace and happiness. When you scribble, you unleash another part of yourself—self-awareness.

6. Read more.

The important thing here is trying to learn new things each day that would enhance and cultivate you in the near future. Try How Full Is Your Bucket? by Tom Rath and Donald O. Clifton. It’s about living in a positive disposition and how the smallest interactions we have with others every day profoundly affect our relationships, productivity, health, and longevity.

7. Live a healthier lifestyle.

Shifting into a healthier lifestyle is also an act of self-love. Once you learn how to listen to the needs of your body, you learn how to listen with the other parts as well—enough for you to be more open with your thoughts and actions.

8. Save and invest.

Nothing is more attractive than a woman who can take care of herself and depend on her own income. Being single can sometimes be a stroke of luck not just in your life but also in your career path. Investing in stocks or in startups can be a breeze, especially when making decisions are a lot easier and not that compromised.

9. Reassess your life goals.

Setting big and small goals will give you a deeper understanding of yourself and your purpose. You are limitless and you can achieve anything you want in your life without someone stopping you.