5 Ways Strong-Minded Women Are Different From “Do-Nothing Bitches”

On November 15th, Ronda Rousey (the undefeated women’s bantamweight champion) will face off against former world boxing champion Holly Holm in Melbourne, Australia. Rousey has made waves out of the boxing ring for her tell-it-like-it-is attitude, making her an exciting role model in chasing seemingly impossible dreams.

In an interview for UFC’s Embedded video series earlier this year, Ronda Rousey attributes her personal success to refusing to sit back and be a “Do-Nothing Bitch.” Her mother raised her to make something of her life, not to passively sit back and wait for things to happen. This type of girl, the type that isn’t going anywhere fast, Ronda labels a “Do-Nothing Bitch.” Ronda describes the Do-Nothing Bitch (or a DNB) as a “chick that just tries to be pretty and be taken care of by somebody else.”

For Rousey, this has meant developing a body that defies traditional gender expectations in pursuit of developing strong muscles for the purpose of being the best fighter she can be.

Those who possess this attitude, who avoid being a DNB through hard work and defying societal expectations in pursuit of their dreams, hold a certain number of traits in common.

1. You’re Never 100% Happy.

Not in the traditional sense. You have a competitive nature and a drive to be the best. Your deepest needs to continue learning and improving mean that you never settle and you therefore can’t ever be fully content because there’s always more to do. Some call it sad but that drive to improve is what MAKES you happy in a deeper sense. It’s who you are. It’s your mission in life.

2. You Don’t Tell, You Show.

It drives you crazy when people waste time talking about their big ideas, or jealously complaining when someone else is living their idea of a dream life. Just go out and do it then, you think to yourself. When you see something you want, you figure out how get it and then you start putting in work. If in that pursuit you realize it isn’t worth your time, you move on to the next thing, no skin off your back. After all, you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. That may be a cliche, but it’s also some straight up real talk. You believe the only thing holding you back is inaction. That’s why you go out there and just do it.

3. You’re Selective With Your Time.

Some think it’s selfish, but you know the truth—you always have to be looking out for number one. This doesn’t mean you don’t care about others. You’re deeply in touch with the needs of those around you and are simply highly selective about how you use your time. You say no when you need time to yourself to keep from becoming overextended. In the end, it’s for everyone’s best interests. Those who you do make space and time for appreciate you for your relentless commitment…well, to honoring your commitments.

4. You Surround Yourself With Like-Minded Achievers.

You’re passionate about elevating your crew and in return you expect the same. Whether that takes the form of creative collaboration or healthy competition to increase each other’s motivation, you and your friends are always looking for ways to push each other one step closer to your goals. No man (or woman) is an island. You won’t get anywhere important by stepping on the people in your way.

5. You Have a Clearly Defined Purpose.

This looks different for everyone. What’s the same across the board is that this purpose is specific and the light to your internal fire. For some, it’s always learning what you don’t know. For others, it’s changing the world. It could be simply to be the best mother possible, or to found a business that saves lives. What matters is that you don’t let societal expectations influence your drive. You don’t let others tell you that your dreams are impractical. You don’t give in to your loved ones suggesting that you manage your expectations. Your purpose is yours and yours alone. All that matters is that you know what motivates you, that thing that gets you up in the morning, and you spend your whole day fighting for your purpose.