To The Woman Struggling With Confidence Today, Here’s What I Need You To Know
By Bria Barrows
Confidence.
Boy, if only it were as easy as it is for me to write it. But being a woman in this society, is extremely difficult. It’s all about how many followers you have, how pretty you look on the outside and basically about how much attention you can get from others.
And if you can’t get it, then basically you are seen as a nobody and honestly, I am tired of seeing this world constantly break beautiful, smart and talented women down every single day.
Take me for instance, I preach about confidence and most of my pieces come from a place of self-love and although I wholeheartedly believe what I am saying, I struggle sometimes, for days at a time, to believe that I am worth it.
I struggle to feel beautiful, I struggle to feel like I am a queen and I doubt myself when I feel like my photos or my posts aren’t getting the superficial attention that so many of us crave.
I struggle, as a woman, to live in a society where you can be dying on the inside but it is ok as long as you slay on the outside.
And that is never ok.
It’s never okay because life is short and that is too many damn years wasted not believing you are enough.
It’s never okay because it hurts to live your life searching for validation that was there all along but overlooked by you just because we live in a world of instant gratification and instant acknowledgements.
You are enough.
So, if you are on a quest today to say yes to you and find true love like no other, maybe it’s time to take a break from social media for a while and assess why you post the things you post. Is it for you? Or is it for likes?
Maybe it is time to actually be single for a while and delay looking for love until you are okay with sitting in the dark, naked, the glare of the mirror bouncing off your floors and hitting you, while you let those tears fall and you declare your love for yourself.
Maybe it is time to let time heal you, because sweetie, God never created you to walk around with your head down, constantly in search of approval from others.
It is easier said than done, I know, but take it from me, you will finally get to the point where you feel confident in who you are as a woman.
It takes time, but it will be worth it.
You will smile again, you will look at your stretch marks without cringing in sheer horror of your humanity, you will kiss your boyfriend, naked with the lights on, and make love to him, pure authenticity beaming from your eyes.
You will eventually love you.
But until then, work on yourself, write love letters to yourself, hold your head high and pray for the confidence that you so rightly deserve.
Do what you feel is necessary to get you to the point where you are ok with you.
Because when you do, I promise you, you will be unstoppable and the world will follow in your footsteps.
They will look at you and see that it is okay to love yourself, even in all your imperfections.
Confidence isn’t something that happens overnight.
No likes, posts, trips around the world to Paris, a man, designer clothes, or amount of money can give it to you.
It comes from the inside.
It is simply the belief that no matter what and because you are alive, you have been validated.
So, to the woman who struggles with confidence today, you will get there and you will love who you are.
Because woman to woman, we all struggle. And I just want you to know that you matter, just because you are you.