An Open Letter To All Desperately Needy Guys


Dear Needy Guys,

Thank you for all your unwavering attention on me. Just because I’m nice, friendly and listen to you with a smile, doesn’t mean I want to get married, have your babies or even date you. I’m just a really good listener who treats most people with respect and kindness.

I know you feel touched by my presence in listening to you, giving you my full attention and making you feel accepted for being yourself. You haven’t felt this good about yourself in a long time. But trust me, it’s not me that’s loving you. It’s you realizing that I make you feel good about yourself and you want it to continue. Because to be honest, you don’t know how to do it for yourself.

So you keep texting me on all the different chat platforms late at night, hoping that I’ll reply and give you the acceptance that you desperately crave for yourself. And you know, I get it. Because I used to be you. I used to be the one texting dates or guys I thought I had a connection with because I didn’t know how to accept myself. I didn’t know how to acknowledge and love myself for who I was.

Now I understand how I came across to those guys. I was the needy girl who needed acceptance, who craved for approval from random strangers, who chased guys when I was the only one who could give the love and approval to myself.

So here’s what you need to do:

1. Give me some space

2. Let me be

3. Find another obsession while you learn to love yourself

Because I’ve exhausted my days and energy spending my time with you. Even though I’m a nice friend and think you’re good company, you’ve actually become an energy zapper, sucking my energy dry as you overwhelm me with your need to take these good feelings from me. And although I still think you’re a good person, I don’t want to hang out with you anymore.

So I’m saying NO. I’m blocking you from annoying me on social media, chatting and in person. You go do you, and I’ll do me… okay? I think it’s for the better for both of us! And maybe one day, when you’ve learned to love yourself, maybe then, we can be friends again.

Yours sincerely,

That Nice Single Girl In Your Life