Don’t Blame The Girl He Chose Over You

It’s not her fault he left you.

I know it hurts. I know it isn’t fair. I know there’s a thousand reasons why you hate him for leaving you. I know you still love him, too.

I know you look at her and you see the face of someone who’s wronged you. She’s the one he wakes up with now, and they do all the same things you used to do — they eat dinner at your favorite restaurant and they see movies together after work and sometimes they just walk around together and talk. And it kills you inside to know that maybe he feels all the same things with her that he once felt with you. You’re mad that he still has that when you don’t.

It makes you mad that she has what used to be yours, that she filled in every space he kicked you out of.

But the truth is that it’s not her fault. You can hate her all you want, but she didn’t take anything from you. She only did what we all do — she went after what made her happy. After all, we’re all just looking for someone who makes us feel loved, even her.

If you’re going to blame someone, blame him. Blame the boy for leaving, for hurting you, for choosing someone else in the end. Blame him for getting you caught up in a game, for leading you on, for playing with your heart and then leaving it behind when he got bored.

Because at the end of the day, she didn’t owe you anything — he did. He broke his promises and he broke your trust and he moved on to something else instead. He’s the one who held the power and used it against you.

Don’t blame the girl he chose over you — blame the man who chose her.