How To Be A 23-Year Old Single Girl In Our World Today

I don’t know a lot yet. I don’t know how to change my tires. I don’t know how to get a shot without freaking out beforehand. I don’t know what it’s like to live by myself yet. I don’t even know how to drink vodka without being hungover the next morning.

I don’t know a lot yet. I have so much more to experience. I have so many people I haven’t had the chance of meeting yet. I have so many people I haven’t loved yet. I have so much more to see. I have so much room to grow. I have so many things I haven’t learned yet.

But, here is what I know as a 20-something single girl.

I know what it is like to truly love someone. I know what it feels like to give your heart to someone because you are 100% confident that they won’t drop it. I know what it feels like to hear the words ‘I love you’ being said to you. I know what it’s like to feel like you are walking on clouds, because that’s the kind of thing love does to you. I know what it feels like to listen to a song and feel tears sprout in your eyes, for what seems like no reason at all. Maybe that’s just what love does to a girl.

I also know what it feels like to get my heart broken. I know the feeling of a ton of bricks crushing on my chest, as I hear the words ‘I don’t love you anymore’. I know what it feels like to not want to eat. To not want to do anything. To not want to breathe. Because you feel like you don’t have the energy to survive. I know what it feels like to listen to a song and feel tears sprout in your eyes, for what seems like no reason at all. Maybe that’s just what heartbreak does to a girl. 

And I know what it is like to be lonely. I know how it feels to be lying in a bed by yourself night after night. I know that twinge in your heart that pierces you bit by bit, when you realize you haven’t been with someone for a long time. I know what it feels like to listen to a song and feel tears sprout in your eyes, for what seems like no reason at all. Maybe that’s just what loneliness does to a girl. 

I don’t know a lot. But I do know how to survive. Through the lonely nights. Through the tears. Through the sad songs. And through the empty beds. And that’s exactly what we all have to do. We have to keep breathing. Keep singing. Keep listening. Keep living. I can’t tell you how to live your life. I can’t tell you all the answers. But, I do know that one day, you will understand why you had to go through these hurdles.

You are young. You are too young to not grasp life in your hands. We are all too young to not want to live.

None of us know what is to come. None of us know what this life has to offer us. So, we can’t give up on love just yet. We can’t lose sight of our daydreams. We can’t let that flame go out. We have only lived twenty something years. We have no idea what our future holds.

No matter the heartache. No matter the heartbreak. No matter the emptiness that follows you around like a shadow in the dark, we don’t know enough yet to go. We don’t know enough yet to give up. And we don’t know enough yet about love. We have so much more to love. We have so much more to do. We have so many places we haven’t even stepped foot on. And we have so many faces that we haven’t laid eyes on.

In our world today, there is no magical potion to help us get through our tragedies. There is no magical pill. But there is always hope. And there is always light. Even in the darkest of places.