How You Would Feel If You Got What You Wanted?


If you got what you wanted, how would it change your life? I’m referring to achieving your goals or fulfilling your dreams. Have you given it any thought? Have you entertained the idea of achieving everything you desire?

Focus On What You Want

“Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed.” — Paulo Coelho

We habitually focus on what we don’t want, to the degree it manifests in our reality. Unfortunately, we don’t devote enough attention to our dreams and highest aspirations because we believe we are unworthy or unable to achieve our goals. Psychologists believe this is wired into our early nurturing, where our needs are not met via our parents or caregivers. It is why many people don’t go after what they want because of the obstacles that stand in their way.

Does this describe you? Is there a small voice within you that laments the difficulties to achieve your goals? I’m inviting you to notice these thoughts when you reach for something outside your comfort zone. Therefore, we ought to nurture our innermost needs; our deepest wants and desires. I’m not suggesting this practice alone will help them materialize. Nevertheless, we’ve got to give ourselves a chance to cultivate our needs and create a space for them, especially if they are important to us.

Is this something you do often? Perhaps through visualizations or journaling? If not, is it a practice you’re willing to undertake? Obviously, your desires will differ from others. For example, you might want to be in an intimate relationship or get ahead in your career, perhaps improve your health or finances. Whatever it is, we must connect with our deepest intentions and understand them better so we can give them life. In doing so, we discover important aspects about ourselves and whether our desires are worth pursuing. Otherwise, we might spend months, or years chasing after lofty goals that don’t bring us the fulfillment we’re looking for.

What Is Your Compelling Reason To Achieve Your Goals?

“Remember, the WHY is a filter. When you start with WHY, it attracts people who believe what you believe and repels people who don’t.” — Simon Sinek

So, how would your life change, if over several months or years you achieved all your goals? Who would you become? How would you act? Who would you be surrounded by? Try to get a sense of this future, even if it is a glimpse. If you can visualize it, your subconscious mind will help you achieve it. Here’s the caveat: your goal must be tied to powerful emotions and a compelling reason to achieve the goal. You must have a convincing WHY, imbued with powerful emotions, since they will help you achieve your desires.

Are you content with this so far? I realize I’m asking a lot of questions, but it is purposeful to help you get clear on what you want. I’d like you to understand that you can achieve anything you desire as long as it is tied to a powerful reason. We must invoke energizing emotions of love, gratitude, enthusiasm, and passion to bring to life our inner visions. I assure you, spending time alone with your thoughts, whether through journaling or quiet reflection, will save you years of hard work and disappointment. I’ve witnessed this in hundreds of coaching clients who pursued goals they thought would make them happy, only to realize they weren’t fulfilled. It is why I coach clients to understand their underlying reasons for their goals and help them create a roadmap to achieve them.

Visualize Success To Achieve Your Goals

“All successful men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.” — Brian Tracy

The key to achieving our goals lies in commitment and perseverance, but there are other factors we must take into consideration. For example, we must work intelligently and overcome setbacks and disappointments that emerge along the way. This is where we learn more about ourselves and the importance of our goals. We learn about the importance of making sacrifices to achieve our goals. Second, we must visualize ourselves achieving our goals and work diligently to bring to life our vision. Visualizing a successful life involves planting the seed within our subconscious mind and nurturing it regularly. I liken it to the architectural drawings of a new house to be built. The more we visit the image in our mind, the better the instructions we give to our subconscious mind to achieve it.

Everything you desire lies on the other side of your fears and requires reconciling them to see what you are prepared to do to achieve your goals. Therefore, your powerful WHY (compelling reason) will help you overcome obstacles and challenges and motivate you to achieve them. The level at which you are willing to achieve your desires is based on your ability to overcome short-term setbacks for long-term success. Hence, why visualization is a powerful tool, because it is a mind map of your intended future.

Knowing this, I invite you to sit with your journal or phone and answer the questions in the opening paragraph with care and thoughtfulness. In fact, I encourage you to answer all the questions throughout the article. I want you to get a powerful sense of your desires and why you want to bring them to life. It is my experience that spending time on this exercise can save you time and disappointment. Getting what we want in life can be satisfying, if our goals are aligned with our highest vision. We must let go of competing beliefs and pursue our goals for what they bring to our life and the lives of others. After all, when our goals are for the greatest good of all, they are imbued with a greater intent and will come to life as long as we remain committed to achieving them.