It’s Those Ordinary Days That Make It Special


I am merely two weeks in this new city and I already suffer from homesickness. Never would I have thought that it will hit me that quickly and that strong.

I believe home mostly is a feeling and not particularly a place.

You can stay the rest of your life in the same exact place that you were born at and still feel like you are not home and even out of place as if you don’t belong in it or something. On the other hand, you can feel at home at places you only have visited once or have lived for a short period of time. Still, without a doubt, I feel utter gratitude about the place of my upbringing because it sure has an influence on the way how I have turned out to be. Therefore, this feeling of gratitude is not applicable to other places I have ever visited or lived in my life.

Still, home to me isn’t a place, it’s a feeling. A feeling of familiarity and safety.

I miss the warmth of his arms around my shoulders when he comes home from a long day work. The scent of food on his hands when he touches my cheek while giving me a soft kiss on my lips. The walls he has left down once he is at home, looking exhausted but a glistening spark in his eyes of contentedness once he sees me again. The moment when we sit together on the couch and talk about our days. When I make him instant noodles while he takes a shower and shamelessly eating too when he makes it look so delicious when he is eating it. I miss the comforting silences between us. Dancing around in the living room while there is no any music playing. Going on grocery dates and having little fights in between because of nothing. It’s all so ordinary yet worth every piece of my heart.

It’s those ordinary days that makes it special.

Of course, I miss our less ordinary days too, but every time I think about him, I think about those ordinary days. The simplicity and rawness. The very core of a relationship is built on these days unless you are rich and can do something fancy every single day. Besides, it’s the only way to find out if you really like to be around someone – let alone love – when your relationship has come to a stable point and nights out aren’t on the daily agenda.

It is through this way that you know if the fundamental of your bond is strong or rather fragile.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t work for it anymore, but I just want to remind you that we should always stop for a moment at some point and appreciate the time you have spent with each other. When you truly appreciate one another presence, then there is no necessity to sugarcoat it. What’s the use when you are all dolled up for another candlelight dinner when you can’t seem to take your eyes off your phone? You may be physically present but it’s about mentally present as well. It’s about making time for each other – even in your pajamas and sweats at home – and let the other presence sink through your whole being. That’s real intimacy if you’d ask me. It’s about getting to know each other a little bit better every time you spend time together. In the end, it’s all about reminding yourself that you have fallen for that person when there was no trace of sugar coating or a rose-tinted filter.

It’s those ordinary days that makes it special.