The 10 Commandments Of Being A Type-A, Independent Female


Thou shall remain humble. By nature, independent individuals get what we want by going after it. A lot of hard work goes in, and great things happen as a result. It’s important that we remember our roots and make sure all of the good is never taken for granted by inflating our ego too much.

Thou shall appreciate life’s struggles. We fight for what we want out of life, and – most times – it will get us where we want to be. It’s far too easy to overlook the obstacles that once stood in our way; it is even easier to pretend they never existed at all. Remembering those moments when life knocked us down is an important memory to carry with us into the future, because (to my first point) it keeps us humbled and appreciative of the blood, sweat and tears that we once put into life.

Thou shall give back. Karma – it’s a thing. We may always be on-the-go, or eyeing our next target, but giving back can offer something that we never knew existed. Whether it be time, money, opinions, or other, we can get a sense of fulfillment from doing so.

Thou shall request help when it’s needed. It’s important to realize that one person can’t do it all. There are times when we get dealt a bad hand, or we’re incapable of accomplishing a task. Everyone needs help sometimes, and it doesn’t mean we’ve lost control. It means we’re human. Ask for help if it’s needed, and accept it when it’s offered.

Thou shall accept love and support. Everyone has baggage, in one way or another. It’s part of life. Just because we open up and let our guards down a little doesn’t mean we lose who we are. It means we’re strong enough to face what comes our way. An independent woman is attractive; a cold-hearted bitch is not.

Thou shall step out of one’s comfort zone. Part of who we are is structure and routine – it’s in our DNA. Trying something new, or opening our minds to something we’ve never considered before could offer a whole slew of benefits. We’ve made it this far sticking to what we know works – imagine how much further we could go if we considered something we never thought about before.

Thou shall recognize one’s faults. We’re wrong; we’re stubborn; we’re unbearable at times. Again, it’s part of being human. Not everything we do can be coated in platinum and praised by the world. Sometimes things go awry – and that’s okay. Admitting that we made a mistake gives us new dimension. It presents us with the opportunity to learn and grow – and to give others a chance to see that we’re not so stone-cold, either.

Thou shall maintain an open mind. We have a plan. Some people go with the flow. Neither approach is necessarily wrong, however. We need to take a minute and attempt to view the world from someone else’s perspective. It may offer a vision we never even thought about before. It may open doors to things we never would have noticed before.

Thou shall resist against imposing judgment on others. Give the other person a chance to speak. Let them live their life in the way that makes them happy. We may not choose that path, direction, or lifestyle, but it works for them. Our way isn’t right or wrong – it just works for us. We all tick for different reasons, and we all thrive under different circumstances. What works for one, may not work for another.

Thou shall become slightly more dependent on others. We can’t do it all. We have to let others in. Open our minds, hearts, and lives to the amazing moments we experience through others. Sharing this world with loved ones is what makes it so great. Let it happen. I promise it’s worth it.

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