This Is For Women Who Assume All Men Are The Same


I’m writing this article, because I’ve been there. I’ve been through weeks and months and years of thinking that every guy is “the same.” They’ve all got the same goals, right? Sex, sex, and more sex? They’ll all go to extreme measures to get it?

For instance, cheating? They all suck at being romantic or genuine? They’re all stoic, emotionless robots? And, if by some astounding miracle, they’re actually in a healthy, steady, committed relationship, they’re probably some kind of weird alien hybrid subspecies thing? These are thoughts we all have at some point ladies, am I right?

There’s a very cheesy scene from a very cheesy movie, He’s Just Not That Into You, that does a good job of describing how we think about men, women. There’s a guy pouring his heart out to a girl and her response to him is: “But you didn’t! And that same wise person told me that I’m the rule. That I have to stop thinking that every guy will change, that I have to stop thinking that…” Women, we have to stop thinking that every guy is the same based on a bunch of stereotypes that society has created. This is why:

Maybe you’ve heard this before, but I’m going to say it again. There is a very clear difference between a boy and a man. Boys cheat. Boys think about sex all the time. Boys say they’re going to call and never do. Boys want “easy” and “available.” A man is different. A man makes promises and sees them through. He said he’s going to call? He is.

He said he’s taking you out? He is. He told you he thinks you’re wonderful and beautiful and brilliant? He means it. Plain and simple. He will chase you, fight for you, bend over backwards just to see you smile. A man doesn’t see you as a “rule” or an “exception.” He just thinks you’re exceptional. He’s called a “game changer” for a reason.

I know him. I know him well. And, since he came along, the world around me is a little brighter. My past gave me every reason to assume he was going to be exactly “the same.” I thought I’d seen it all. But, all doesn’t mean everyone. And, I’ve never seen anything quite like him. He proved me wrong, and I never thought I’d be thankful for something like that, but I am.