To My Boyfriend’s Ex-Girlfriend: You Will Find Love Again


Hey there.

I know who you are, and you know who I am, though we have never met nor had a conversation. I’m sure the only things you know about me are what limited details your ex has told you and the assumptions you make of me based off of my social media. I’m writing to tell you that I am not the enemy, and neither is he. Coming from me, that may mean nothing, but I want you to hear my side of the story.

I know how much it hurts to find out he has moved on while you had no intentions to. I’ve been heartbroken myself more than once. It’s an awful experience and, honestly, one of the worst things someone can go through. You’ve had your ups and downs over the years. You were in each other’s lives for a long time and I’m not going to try to minimize the pain you must be feeling. We’ve all been there. Honestly, whatever happened between you two is none of my business. I carried my own love and heartbreak before I knew either of you existed. Before coming to college, I had my fair share of failed relationships that left me crying in bed for days and unable to drag myself out. I grew from those experiences, and I know you will grow from this, too. When I met him, I was content being single and neither of us had intentions of starting a relationship. But, as the cliché goes, we spent more and more time together and realized that we wanted to be together.

That’s when he texted you. Your world fell apart in a matter of minutes, and I know what that feels like. And I’m sorry. But while you were holding on to every last bit of him, he was freeing himself of the toxic relationship you had been in for years. This break in your relationship would have happened whether it was me or any other girl in the picture. Quite frankly, it may have happened without any other girl at all.

You began messaging me over social media, sent your friends in to try to follow my private accounts, and posted about him all over the internet. The message was received; I know you are hurt. I know you genuinely want the best for him, even if that doesn’t mean it’s you.

Despite the feelings you are experiencing now, I am a firm believer that you will find happiness and as you grow, you will find the person you are meant to be with, whether it’s him or not. Please know that I understand you were special to him; he wouldn’t have spent so many years of his life with you if you weren’t. But now, you deserve someone who will always put you first and never make you feel unappreciated, like he does to me. This process may take time. While you’re working through this, I hope you can find it in your heart to realize your story is over, and ours is happening.


You Ex-Boyfriend’s Girlfriend