To The Broken-Hearted: Do Not Despair


Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love, we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who loves us. We miss out on so many beautiful things simply because we allow ourselves to be slaved by our own selfish concerns. Go for the person of deeds and not for the person of words for you will find rewarding happiness not with the person you love, but the person who loves you more. The best lovers are those capable of loving from a distance, far enough to allow the other person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being.

To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his or her own happiness without expecting him or her to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but it also means setting yourself free from all the bitterness, hatred, and anger that is stashed away in the darkest corners of your heart. Do not let the bitterness rare away your strength and weaken your faith, but rather, let you grow with wisdom in bearing it.

You may find peace in just loving someone from a distance and not expecting anything in return. But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past but real peace and happiness comes only with open acceptance of what reality is today.

There will come a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just a friendship. We start our desperate attempts to get noticed and be closer but in the end our futile efforts are still unrewarded and we end up feeling sorry for ourselves.

You don’t have to forget someone you love. What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Don’t let your heart run your life. Be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. If you lose love, that doesn’t mean that you failed in love. Cry, if you have to, but make sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness, and that the past has left with you.

Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you and when it finally does, pray that it is the love that will stay and last a lifetime. Sigh! I too, am still learning.

Life is beautiful.