Truth Be Told, You Shouldn’t Always Validate Your Thoughts

Our thoughts have all the power in the world. It has the ability to destroy our potential or build it—that’s how much power is within our mind.

Every day, we have various thoughts, jumping from one to the next. When we’re happy, our thoughts are focused on finding evidence for why we feel bliss, joy, or happiness. Our thoughts are focused on that happy feeling that makes our hearts fill with life. However, when we’re sad, anxious, or even depressed, our thoughts can also go the other way. More often than not, it dwells on every negative thought you have. Your mind feeds you with thoughts telling you that you’re not good enough or that your past is always going to define you. It feeds you with evidence to back up as to why you’re consumed with so much worthlessness, shame, and hatred for yourself and your own choices.

When this happens, you dwell on these self-destructive thoughts, and it’s a never-ending cycle of self-pity and worthlessness. You dwell on the bad circumstances that have happened to you. You dwell on that trauma, on the feelings of abuse, on your mistakes and your past. You dwell on that toxic relationship you’ve been through, and you don’t think you deserve someone good. You dwell on being defined by your parents’ marriage, because you never had the perfect childhood. You dwell on the darkness, because that’s where you believe you belong. You let yourself believe that these thoughts are valid—and they are, but only to an extent.

Your thoughts aren’t always accurate. Sometimes they feed you with more lies than truth. Your thoughts are the combination of all your fears and insecurities, and your mind knows this.

You can’t always control your thoughts, but you do have a say in what you do with those thoughts.

You do have a say in whether you’re going to let yourself believe them or to fight them. You do have a say in whether you’re going to dwell in the darkness or you’re going to find the light and move forward. You can’t let your thoughts win every time or you’ll lose the battle.

Your thoughts and your emotions are both valid, and nobody can dictate how you feel about certain things. However, that doesn’t mean you get to act on what you think. You should never let your emotions control you, because that’s a battle you don’t want to see play out. The people who have mastered the art of mental and emotional strength have all learned that even if you may get overwhelmed with the darkness of your own thoughts, you’re accountable for your own life. At the end of the day, you’re accountable for the change you need to become a better person.