15 Women Reveal Their Thoughts On Men Who Try To Sleep With Them On The First Date

1. “It’s not something worth trying to control, because sex is emotion and trying to control your emotions is usually not a smart move for your heart. I guess if one feels in sync with their date this comes only natural – otherwise sleeping with someone you don’t 100% enjoy sounds like a bone head move.” – Kaleigh, 30

2. “Sex will always be there and once you have sex with someone on the first date it takes away all the mystery to what else there is. I think you should enjoy making out and flirting because then it gives you sex to look forward to in the future if it evolves that far.” – Maria, 24

3. “I don’t really think one way or the other about it unless one party makes it known they’re uncomfortable and the other is still persistent. That can get weird, uncomfortobale, dangerous, etc. Otherwise people vibe off each other and react in a variety of ways. If we’re consenting great and if I’m not or he isn’t respect those boundaries.” – Jenny, 27

4. “Guys who do it on the first date are usually better. I, personally, wouldn’t pursue a “relationship” with someone if the sex isn’t good. Better just to get it over with, because they won’t get as emotionally attached and it’ll be easier to end it if the sex is bad.” – Rose, 26

5. “My rule is to always wait a little while because that way you’ll be able to tell if you’re really into him or not. He can want to sleep with you, but that doesn’t mean you’re obligated.” – Cassandra, 29

6. “I would respect the person if he’s being straightforward and honest. It would be up to me to decide if that’s something I want to do or not. But, if he imposes himself on me, that’s a whole different story. I would cut him off right away. I don’t tolerate disrespectful behaviours like that.” – Karen, 33

7. “Personally, it’s usually a no-go for me. I don’t think taking your clothes off on a first date is an appropriate thing to do. If you like him and he likes you I think waiting is the best option.” – Erin, 23

8. “To be completely honest, I don’t think sex is that big of a deal anymore. It’s human nature and something we all crave. If he wants to have sex and you’re feeling it, I’d definitely say there’s nothing wrong with it. If he really likes you he’ll call either way.” – Alannah, 31

9. “I’m actually pretty old fashioned and I don’t have sex with anyone until I’m in love with them. If he isn’t cool with that then he isn’t the one for me. I believe sex should mean something.” – Bridgette, 35

10. “If he tries to sleep with me on the first date it’s just kind of off-putting. I’m dating you to get to know you, if I wanted a hook up I would have just showed up to fuck.” – Rachel, 26

11. “If the chemistry is there and you’re both feeling each other then why not have sex on the first date? If he pressures you into it then absolutely not, but if it’s a mutual feeling I say go for it.” – Margaret, 28

12. “I didn’t have sex with my current boyfriend until about 3 months after we started seeing each other. I think that’s a good time because you know he’s invested because no one sticks around for 3 months just to get laid. I think it’s a solid point in your relationship where you’re comfortable enough with each other and it actually means something.” – Ally, 25

13. “I’ve basically had sex on every first date I’ve ever gone on…” – Sam, 27

14. “I think you should only have sex if the timing feels right and you’re actually into each other. It hurts when you wake up alone because he snuck out the door in the middle of the night. No one wants that.” – Kate, 24

15. “Maybe I’m not the norm, but when someone tries to initiate sex with me on the first date/first time meeting them, I honestly get insulted. I think that’s partly because I try to make it clear that I’m not a ‘one night stand’ type of girl, but also because I definitely want to have relationships/connections/dates that are based on the emotional, rather than physical. So when someone first meets me, or spends time with me, I find it a super turn off when they try to initiate sex. I think it’s important to get to know someone first, before jumping into bed with them.” – Lilly, 28