19 Things That Happen When You’re The Only Extrovert In Your Friend Group


1. You have a plethora of friends who are available for a “Quiet night in,” but very few who are down for a raging night out.

2. You’re never at a loss for people to have long, philosophical conversations with.

3. And when you need to talk out a personal problem, there’s always someone around to listen.

4. All that being said, you occasionally just want people to RALLY with and sometimes grow frustrated by the group’s continuous consensus to stay in.

5. You end up tagging along to a lot of parties with colleagues or vague acquaintances.

6. As a result, you end up with a wide circle of extroverted acquaintances, but still feel closest to your core group of introverted friends.

7. You start to feel like a wildly rebellious person in comparison to your close friends, even though you’re pretty sure your lifestyle is normal for most people your age.

8. You sometimes have to withhold information about your social or sex life from your core group, fearing it will shock some of your more reserved friends.

9. You can’t always give the best advice to each other because you usually encourage them to get out of their shell when they need to introspect, and they encourage you to introspect when you need to take action.

10. Other times, however, their opposing perspective is exactly what you need to snap you out of your bad habits (and vice versa).

11. You have to consciously manage your disappointment when your friends describe an event as, “Loud and bustling,” and you realize they’re describing why they don’t want to go to it.

12. Everyone knows not to cancel plans on you at the last minute. Your other friends may feel relieved when that happens but you are annoyed to no end by it.

13. You have to constantly remind yourself that just because a given friend is free, doesn’t necessarily mean they want to hang out.

14. When you do stay in and hang out together, you’re super energized after three or four hours of conversation… and your introverted friends are tired and ready to go to bed.

15. When the group finally does decide to go out, everyone expects you to plan it.

16. And you accepted years ago that going out with your group means you’ll always find yourself alone at the party after about one or two am.

17. Everyone expects you to be happy and upbeat all the time, even on the days you’re feeling mellow.

18. You sometimes wish you had at least one close extroverted friend to help break you out of the funks that talking things out just won’t fix.

19. But at the end of the day, you know that nothing could replace the balance your introverted friends bring to your life – they’re the yin to your yang and you couldn’t imagine your life without them.