33 Women Confess What They’re Dying To Tell Their Ex
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1. Thank you for breaking me. It was in picking up the fragments of myself that I was able to mend.
“Thank you for breaking me. It was in picking up the fragments of myself that I was able to mend & become so much better than the person I was. In picking up & piecing together those fragments, I was able to truly fall in love with myself.”
2. I wish that you were my last.
“I wish that you were my last.”
3. Thanks for wasting my life.
“Thanks for wasting my life.”
4. I remember your hands around my neck. I remember crawling to the road in a blood-soaked summer dress to be picked up by a stranger driving by.
“I remember your hands around my neck. I remember crawling to the road in a blood-soaked summer dress to be picked up by a stranger driving by. I remember waking up with butcher knives to my throat and begging for my mother not to be the one to find my body. I remember you making me sit next to you on the couch with my eyes swollen shut after you hit me over and over and over. I remember you throwing my dog in front of an SUV when I tried to leave… but you always sent me lilies the next day. Calla Lilies. Easter lilies. Star Gazers. 2004 to 2011 I stayed. I prayed. I forgave. All you had to do was get help. I just want to hear you say that you’re sorry…that you remember every punch. Every bruise. I want to know why.”
5. I guess I won the ‘I love you more’ game.
“You were the third strike. You promised to never do to me what everyone else did. You promised that I could trust you. You worked every day for 2.5 years to help me rebuild the damage from being emotionally and mentally abused. Then, you went and got another girl pregnant behind my back.
So, everything you said to me was a lie.
I guess I won the ‘I love you more’ game.”
Thank you, not for cheating, but for leaving when I was too weak to let you go.”
6. You are the one person I will never get over, ever. You are the one who will always be the ‘What if?’…I wanted a family with you, to have your children. You are the ONLY man I ever wanted to marry. And you broke my heart, again.
“I loved you, I still do. You were my first love, the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, which is why we were together five different times over the course of 11 years. You are the one person I will never get over, ever. You are the one who will always be the ‘What if?’ I wanted a family with you, to have your children. You are the ONLY man I ever wanted to marry. And you broke my heart, again. I trusted you and I gave myself to you when I couldn’t allow myself to even have physical contact with my own child. I see your truck and I always think, ‘damn I miss him.’ You stop and talk to me, and we talk for hours, but I know that no matter how much I love you, we will never be together, ever again. I can forgive you, you can forgive me, and we may be distant friends, who only speak when we see each other, but we will never be what I wanted, what I still want. I will never marry. I will never love anyone the way I loved you. I’m in a relationship now that I know will not ever go anywhere because of the current circumstances, but I chose this for protection of my heart. Because I can never give myself to another person the way I gave myself to you. You ruined me for all other prospects. I still cry over you, even a year later. My heart is still empty, even a year later. You were my true love, but we couldn’t make it work, and we never will. I’ll never stop loving you, I’ll never stop wanting you. I wish I hadn’t loved you, because then I might be able to give someone what I gave you, what you took for granted. Here we are, both in our mid-30s, neither have been married, both of us doing what we are doing to protect our hearts because we both are heartbroken from losing each other. Why couldn’t we make it work? Why wasn’t I enough? Why couldn’t you stick with me through the hard times? Why did you have to break my heart, again? Why are you the reason there is a tear sliding down my cheek at 7am? Why can’t I ever let you go? I wish I hadn’t met you, hadn’t fallen for you, hadn’t loved you, because then, maybe I’d be whole, cuz today I’m not, and it’s because of you.”
7. If you’re going to watch porn every second of the day, the least you could do is learn something from it.
“If you’re going to watch porn every second of the day, the least you could do is learn something from it.”
8. You are my happiest memory.
“Hi, ex, I am happy that you do not exist, and I wish you won’t exist, but if ever you do, I want to let you know that I am thankful for everything and every moment that we shared, for the experiences that made me who I am and for making my life worth living. You are my happiest memory.”
9. I hope we both end up in relationships that are a little less hard, a little less painful, a little more joyful.
“I love you, always and no matter what. I’m so grateful for you, the love and the heartbreak. I have learned and grown so so so much because of it all. You are my soulmate, one of them, in so many ways. What we have is so rare and so precious. It has served me well. But it isn’t my forever, or yours, and that’s OK. I wish you well, I hope we both end up in relationships that are a little less hard, a little less painful, a little more joyful. And I know when I find that you’ll be part of the reason I got there, so thank you for every moment. I will cherish you and love you always.”
10. I am stronger without you. You didn’t break me or make me. You will always be a mistake.
“You’re missing out on the greatest life lesson. I am stronger without you. You didn’t break me or make me. You will always be a mistake. Thanks for my daughter we will always be stronger without you.”
11. Thank you, not for cheating, but for leaving when I was too weak to let you go.
“Thank you, not for cheating, but for leaving when I was too weak to let you go. I was shattered into a million pieces with our newborn son, but I slowly picked up all my broken pieces, placed them back where they belonged, and glued them together with self-respect and strength. Years later, I’ve met my soulmate. He appreciates all my flaws and completely mended the last pieces of my broken heart by simply giving me his.”
12. I am sorry for making and building a life with you, hoping things would change but knowing they wouldn’t.
“I’m not bitter, but I am sorry I didn’t have the strength to say that I wanted out before we took it so far. I am sorry for making and building a life with you, hoping things would change but knowing they wouldn’t. I’m sorry you felt you wasted years of your life with me, even though I was the unhappy one. I’m sorry we could never move past the fighting and the crying to actually make things work. I’m sorry I wasn’t adamant enough to push us to get the help we needed.
I’m sorry you felt cheated.
I tried, I stayed and I fought against myself, but the truth was I wasn’t happy and was never going to be if we stayed together, the truth was that I wasn’t who I wanted to be, I was going down the path I swore I’ d never walk in my youth. I felt old inside a 20-something year old body. I already felt like my life was ending before it had really begun. I thank you for teaching me and giving me tools to help me in the daily aspects of life, but seeing you now brings nothing but relief. Relief that you’re not my problem anymore, that I don’t have to make excuses for your behavior, that I don’t have to choose my words so carefully and that I don’t have to answer to you anymore.”
13. You were a total douchebag when we were together and I really hope you now know that.
“You were a total douchebag when we were together and I really hope you now know that. Also, I’m happy that you seem to have pulled your head out of your ass and learned to care about another person now.”
14. All the love and continuous support I provided to you, I should have been providing to myself.
“I forgive you. I’m glad you are a better man. I’m really happy to see you grow and be a wonderful man to your new wife.
But all the love and continuous support I provided to you, I should have been providing to myself.
Lesson: Someone who is really your teammate won’t let you neglect your own best welfare.”
15. I have never regretted knowing you because you have taught me to love myself.
“I have never regretted knowing you because you have taught me to love myself, you’ve shown me my weaknesses I never knew existed and because of you I am able to patch that wall and made it stronger. Because of you, I am who I am today. I still love you as who you are and I cherish our memories together, everything that we have been through together and I wish you all the best. I hope you found the love you’ve been looking for and if someday we meet, we will be a better version of ourselves.”
16. Look at where we are today; we are happier without each other.
“I’m sorry for not listening and for being so scared to listen. But I don’t regret the moment we decided to split up and go on our separate ways. Look at where we are today; we are happier without each other. I am happier now.”
17. When someone asks why we split up, I still don’t know what to say.
“When someone asks why we split up, I still don’t know what to say. The answer isn’t clear. I don’t regret what we had. And I hope you have more babies because children light you up like none other…”
18. I wished you had fought for us instead.
“I don’t hate you; all I want is the hurt and pain to be reduced to the minimum. I wished you had fought for us instead. After all that happened the past four years feels more like a fiction story than memories.”
19. I’m so sorry for not being the person you wanted me to be.
“I’m so sorry for not being the person you wanted me to be. I was young. I was afraid. I felt like things were taking too fast, and that we were not on the same page. I wanted us to walk in small paces, but you wanted us to run. Being new in a relationship I got terrified so I left you in thin air. I did regret it. But, you’re gone too soon. You’ll always be in my prayers.”
20. You’re a POS and you ruined me.
“You’re a POS and you ruined me. but now I see you in the halls and I laugh at how happy I am now and how miserable you are (:”
21. The hell we put each other through wasn’t necessary.
“I cannot love compassionately the way that a person should. I cannot show appreciation because of my illnesses. I cannot believe in a happy ending because I’ve never seen one. For that I apologize. But the hell we put each other through wasn’t necessary and I believe you fight your own demons every day as well. But it only made me who I am today. And I thank experience for that.”
22. I hope we could be friends again if that’s possible.
“I’m glad you found a wonderful partner in your life and are having a great family now. I believe you would have a wonderful life. I also hope we could be friends again if that’s possible.”
23. “I forgive you. Not because you deserve to be forgiven.
“I forgive you. Not because you deserve to be forgiven but because of the peace of mind I deserve.”
24. Thank you for being a wonderful father…too bad you could not have learned to be a loving, faithful husband.
“Thank you for being a wonderful father…too bad you could not have learned to be a loving, faithful husband…I am thankful it is over and learned that I am worth much more.”
25. I was hurt, still am.
“I forgive you. I’m sorry for all the hurtful things I’ve said. I was hurt, still am.”
26. You were my first love and that feeling will never go away.
“You were my first love and that feeling will never go away…”
27. I forgive us and hope someday you will, too.
“Sorry I got tired of shaking the sugar tree…sorry I wasn’t fun anymore after I quit drinking…I forgive us and hope someday you will, too.”
28. Karma’s coming for you and I hope she gets you good.
“Karma’s coming for you and I hope she gets you good.”
29. I’m sorry. I was only ever in love with someone else.
“I’m sorry. I was only ever in love with someone else. Many thanks for helping me create such awesome kids, though!”
30. You’ve made me stronger by breaking and ruining me.
“You’ve made me stronger by breaking and ruining me. I learned who my true friends are, and I thank you for that. And I don’t hate you, just give me time to forgive you.”
31. I’m thankful you had the strength to pull the trigger on us.
“I’m thankful you had the strength to pull the trigger on us. I was weak and unhappy. Thank you.”
32. Thank you for tearing me apart when you did, because I got to meet the true love of my life.
“I forgive you.
It took me all these years to finally be able to say it. But the truth is, I’m so happy with the man I call my husband. He helped me heal from you and he truly loves me…so I’m incredibly happy. I can’t imagine my life without him.
So thank you for tearing me apart when you did, because I got to meet the true love of my life.
I don’t hold anything against you anymore…I forgive you and I hope you’re happy, too.”
33. It was really not meant to be, but at least we tried.
“Thank you for the memories. It was really not meant to be, but at least we tried. You set me free to meet the old me that was lost because of you and now I’m moving forward to the better person that was prepared for me.”