I’m Happily Single By Choice, Not By Chance

I used to dread the thought of being single and alone.

I used to fear that emotions, actions, and vulnerability wouldn’t be reciprocated.

I used to fear an unknown world or place that lacked comfort and familiarity.

Correction: I used to.

I entered into official single life status much later than the majority of people my age — in my early twenties — so of course, the concept and experience seemed completely foreign to me. It was like starting over from scratch, not having any clue how to navigate through life actually being single.

It was like learning a new language. Learning to be comfortable in my own skin. Learning to be confident in facing challenges alone. Learning to put myself first in every situation. Learning to take risks. Learning to say yes to opportunity. Learning to embrace hidden, yet extraordinary passions. 

Learning to live and love a new, fearless life — completely and unashamedly single.  

Now, it’s what I love. It’s what makes me happy. It’s what makes me passionate about pursuing the things that I’m afraid of; the things that challenge me. It’s what makes me, me.

I embrace being single in every way, shape, and form. Being single doesn’t mean being alone, and it surely isn’t something one should fear. If I’m being honest, being single is the best first chapter in your real-life, real-time novel — where you can write and/or edit any part, at any point in time.

I’m happy because I’m single by choice — I’m happy because being single by choice has taught me everything I admire about this life.

You allow yourself to test and push your limits. You will hit your low points, but you will always find the will to rise above.

You learn to trust yourself, trust your gut, and follow your heart.

You get a high from facing and overcoming battles — on your own.

You learn to believe in yourself and what you’re capable of achieving.

You become completely invested in your life — in making the most of every moment.

You learn to say yes.

You allow yourself to open your mind, heart, and spirit to the world and your surroundings.

Your passions become the heart and soul of who you are.

Your zest for life will reach an ultimate high.

You learn to be your own main source of happiness.

You learn to understand the true meaning of feeling alive and free.

You realize that being single is simply another way of life reminding you to be yourself again.

You find patience in God’s plan.

You allow your spirit to connect with the world around you.

You learn to really, truly love yourself. The greatest love in its purest, most honest form.

I’ve shared my story. Now it’s your turn.

You’re the author. You’re the anchor. You’re the QB. You determine what happens next.

I am happy because I’m single by choice, not by chance. Are you?