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I am usually the first person to say stand up and fight your demons or your enemies, but there are some perfectly good reasons sometimes to run away from situations. The reason why running away can sometimes be a good thing comes down to removing yourself from toxic situations and instances where you feel like your ability to consent is being stifled and your safety is in danger.

Where do you run to when you realise the thing or the person you have been dedicating so much time to, who has become integral to your life is actually the worst thing that you have been doing to yourself? The answer is nowhere. Right now, you have to face the facts and the facts are hard and cold and horribly unforgiving.

The only true way you are ever going to get over the heartache that is trying to destroy you is by loving yourself. The only way you are ever going to succeed against any and all pain is by learning how to forgive yourself for the things you have done wrong and trying to amend and learn from them. The only way you are going to actually become the best ever version of yourself is by learning to love yourself. 

The problem is not how trauma survivors choose to cope. The problem is society not choosing to aid trauma survivors and finding ways to either blame them and protect their abusers. If only we open our minds to the possibilities of how different trauma speaks through each individual only then we will move forward as a society and stop violence and harassment.

Some people survive and talk about it. Some people survive and go silent. Some people survive and create. Everyone deals with unimaginable pain in their own way, and everyone is entitled to that, without judgement.