The Strongest Orgasm Of Your Life Will Be Through Mutual Masturbation
By Juliet Lanka
You don’t have to wait until you are home alone to masturbate. You can masturbate while your person is sitting beside you in bed, doing the same exact thing.
Think about it… Don’t you think your person looks sexy when they touch themselves? Don’t you get turned on by the sound of their moans? Don’t you like the idea of having a night off from making them orgasm so you can focus on your own pleasure?
When you masturbate, you don’t have to worry about whether your person is going to touch you in the right places, because you are in charge. You get to control how much pressure you use and which rhythm you keep. You get to pleasure yourself exactly the way YOU want it but you can still feel like you are getting intimate with your person because they are only a few inches away from you.
Mutual masturbation is the perfect way to learn what each other likes without having an awkward conversation about sex that neither of you really wants to have. You can learn by watching. By seeing what makes them horny firsthand. You should pay close attention to the way your person strokes themselves (and they should pay attention to how you touch yourself) so that the next time you have sex, you’ll both have intense orgasms.
Mutual masturbation will also encourage you to focus on your own pleasure. It will remind you that sex is not only about making your person orgasm (although that is a big part of it) but it’s also about making yourself happy. You should BOTH be having a good time during sex, not only one of you. That’s not the way it’s supposed to work.
Mutual masturbation is a way to feel even closer with each other. When you’re having sex, you might shut the lights off. You might leave most of your clothing on. You might cover yourself with a blanket and close your eyes or stare at the ceiling. But during mutual masturbation, you are encouraged to look instead of touch. You are supposed to enjoy the visual in front of you. That means you’ll see each other at your most vulnerable.
As a bonus, when you mutually masturbate, you are guaranteed an orgasm. You don’t have to risk your person finishing first and then dozing off to sleep while you are stuck feeling unfulfilled. You are doing the job yourself, which means it’s going to be done CORRECTLY.
The other great thing about mutual masturbation is that it takes the stigma away from touching yourself. Some couples are uncomfortable knowing that their person is getting off to some fantasy inside of their head when they are alone — but if you are masturbating side-by-side you can ogle each other. You can rest easily knowing that they are thinking about YOU while they orgasm, not some stranger they ran into at work that day.
Of course, you don’t literally have to be in the same room together to masturbate. If you’re on a business trip or stuck in a long-distance relationship, you can both touch yourself while speaking over the phone or while chatting on Skype. That way, you can close your eyes and feel like you are together even when you are miles apart.
Mutual masturbation is perfect for when you are on your period and don’t want anyone else to touch you. Or for when you are too tired to thrust your hips but awake enough to use your hands. Or for when you are worried about spreading STDs. Or for when you want to try something new in the bedroom but aren’t ready for anything too kinky. It’s the answer to all of your sexual needs.