The advocator is motivated by justice. They only aspire to something when it has a deeper meaning and purpose, particularly in the realm of transforming the self/community/greater world.
But here’s something subversive and liberating and true: it’s not your responsibility to make other people feel comfortable – no matter the immediate social implications. It is only your responsibility to be honest.
You let other people direct your relationships. You only want from them what they seem to want from you –at least, as far as you’ll admit.
Happiness is a collective phenomena: our emotional states are driven and created by those whose energies we are “open” to.
It takes guts to say “this is not the life I wanted… so I’m going to start over again.”
Sure you have to pay the bills, and sure there are only so many hours in the day, but take time to doing whatever it is that flows naturally: writing, painting, singing, swimming.
You are very cautious as to who you spend time with, and who you willingly give your attention to.
It’s less of a status symbol.
You’re not worried about fitting in anymore, you sincerely don’t want to be “normal,” and you sincerely do not care about being “cool.”
Be the kind of person who actively, consciously seeks out the loving, kind parts of even the most undeserving, unkind people.