50 Marriage Counselors On The Most Common Mistakes Couples Make

32. Unilateral decision making. Just because you don’t need your partner’s input on every little thing doesn’t mean they’re not going to be pissed that you decided to make plans for the both of you without checking with them.

33. So many people refuse to go to bed during a fight. It’s a huge mistake. It’s supposed to be some romantic ideal. Actually, just say I love you and we are disagreeing but we need to get some sleep for work. You always communicate better after sleeping properly.

34. Not letting the other person walk away in a fight. Many fear abandonment and then either pursue or block a door. The retreating spouse isn’t going to talk, and is likely flooded and feels they are getting angry to the point of being irrational, and escaping is the only way they know to handle it. Preventing the escape won’t make anything better and increases the risk of domestic violence. Instead let them take a break and when they return ask if they are ok. If so, ask if they want to continue the discussion now or set a date for later.