50 Marriage Counselors On The Most Common Mistakes Couples Make

7. Keeping score. A partnership is a team, not a competition. Whether a person keeps score of everything they have done, or everything their partner has done, it is a death knell for the relationship. This is one of the most common causes of resentment in a relationship, and you see it often when people use absolute terms to describe themselves or their partners (I.e: I always…, she never…). Remembering that each person has his/her own needs, abilities, skills, and boundaries is essential to a healthy couple.

8. Expecting one person to be everything for them. You need friends, coworkers, a support system, and hobbies.

9. Never lash the other with past misbehaviors when trying to resolve a current issue.

10. When one half says, “I am not happy about X,” do not respond with: “Ok but I am unhappy with Y.” Fix X. Get settled. Then bring up Y if you still need to.